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|January 21, 2015|No Comments

two_faces_young_oldHere’s a famous optical illusion. When you look at it, you’ll see either a young woman or an older woman. Your friend who’s sitting right next to you may see a young woman gazing off to the side, while you see an elderly woman with her eyes cast downward. Who’s right? Both of you — the drawing contains both images.

This difference of perception is an analogy for what’s happening …

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|December 2, 2014|No Comments

Sooner or later, each of us is going to say or communicate something that is hurtful, insensitive, or just plain stupid. Over the course of a business lifetime, this will occur on more than just a few occasions. To be clear, I’m not talking about the grossly out-of-bounds acts and words that you just don’t say or do in public, at work or, for that matter, even in private. I’m

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|November 7, 2014|2 Comments

A while back, I was at a social event with a group of friends. As I was leaving, one of them, a colleague and friend I have known more than 10 years, made a painful ethnic comment to me. I knew he meant nothing by it and I winced – I thought internally – but maybe my face revealed my surprise and even some pain. I didn’t say anything; I

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|September 19, 2014|One Comment

Humans make quick decisions. We react reflexively to strange, threatening, and potentially life-threatening situations. It’s part of how we survive. Less dramatically but more frequently, we have routine interactions where we meet someone and later realize we’d gotten a “good” or “bad” impression about that person. Maybe this “feeling” translated into an instant like or dislike, all based on an encounter that lasted only a few seconds. But they can

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|August 4, 2014|3 Comments

On July 30th, the Wall Street Journal reported the following on a recent meeting of the New York Fed:

“Thomas Baxter, Executive Vice President and General Counsel of the New York Fed, stressed at the outset of his remarks that he was only speaking for himself, but he pointedly critiqued company culture, saying that if a firm’s values don’t support the rules used to guide employee behavior, the organization ‘is

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